Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Romancing the Goth Tip #12: Cheating

(originally posted on 4/05/11)

Greetings my dear Gothlings!

The human animal is not a monogamous one...point blank. Much like felines and canines, the human male is instinctively hardwired to go forth and multiply...as much as possible...spreading that seed around like a lawn sprinkler (you get the idea), and the human female is constantly on the prowl to upgrade her partner. Thus, cheating on a loved one eventually becomes an issue. Sexual temptation is all around us, especially in this hyper-sexed society we live in today! Every person, right down even to the most virtuous and prudish have "impure" thoughts at any given moment. Again, it's instinctual...it's what drives us to survive! Now, to prevent us from being a bunch of horny animals running around like baboons we have suppressed these feeling and regard cheating as morally wrong (thanks religion!) and I do agree with that...somewhat...

This is my tip about cheating on your lover: 
If you want to be committed in a monogamous and romantic relationship... fine...so-be-it! But if you want to screw around like a porn star on an ecstasy binge, that's fine too...just break off any intimate relationship before doing so! In essence, If you want to live like you're single, be single! Cheating on a spouse or a boy/girlfriend takes waaaaaaaaaay too much time, energy, money, and effort to juggle in the cheating lifestyle. Plus, it is one of the most hurtful things you can ever do to someone, there is no explaining the deep and heavy feeling at the pit of the soul one experiences once they discover they've been cheated on...death of a loved one is sometimes easier to handle.  

Lastly, there are plenty of people who pine everyday to find true and long-lasting love. It is something that is precious and very hard to achieve. To rob someone of that by cheating on them is beyond cruel and it also ruins the chance for someone else out there to have a true faithful relationship with the one being cheated on. It might seem that running around having an affair is tantalizing, fun, naughty, and much easier than breaking off a relationship, but in the end everyone involved gets hurt...just don't do it...


See you in the Dark!

Sir William Welles

Monday, May 21, 2018

Romancing the Goth Tip #11: Special Days

(originally posted on 3/31/11)

Greetings my dear Gothlings!

Celebratory dates: sure there is always his/her birthday, anniversaries (large or small), Halloween, and even St. Valentine’s day if you want to fall into that commercial trap (I’ll have a special St. Valentine’s romance post in February)! No, this tip is to suggest that you get creative with coming up with special dates during the year that are dear to your relationship and that you and your partner can celebrate together. For example, you could celebrate Full Moon nights every 27.3 days; make an even bigger deal out of it when it is a Blue Moon (did you know that a blue moon is when there are two full moons in one month?); or maybe you might want to acknowledge a favorite Goth icon’s Birthday or Deathday in a special way (see NewGothCity.com for these dates); or even better yet, start a special yearly, monthly, or even weekly holiday that only both of you invent and enjoy together! The bottom line here is that you and your partner spend time ritualistically appreciating a special event together.


See you in the Dark!

Sir William Welles

Friday, May 18, 2018

How Deep Is The Hole by ACTORS

I AM OFFICIALLY OBSESSED WITH THIS SONG!!!


Romancing the Goth Tip #10: Compliments

(originally posted on 3/29/11)

Greetings my dear Gothlings!

Compliments! Again, take notice of detail and offer your loved one at least three compliments the time you spend together (or on the phone/text), per day. Simple, small compliments are just fine. You don’t have to go over the top. However, if you really want to get through to some one’s heart (this is kind of an under-handed trick, but the results are pleasing to all) what you should do is to positively compliment something that your lover is insecure about! For example: she…uh…let’s just say: she doesn’t like the shape of her…uh…ear lobes. Yeah, ear lobes, that’s it! She always tugs on them or hides them, keeps looking at them in the mirror and sighing, or whatever. Then at some point in time, out of the blue, you say something like: “You know what part I really like about you? Your ear lobes...they’re so cute!” she will naturally return something like: “What? Are you kidding me? You’re just saying that! My ear lobes are hideous!” That’s when you have to stick to your guns and say: “No, they are not! Not at least to me…I think they make you, you.” Follow up with a hug and/or kiss. The bonus behind this tactic is that it will boost her/his confidence and strengthen your bond with them all at the same time. Don't believe me? Just try it, and see...

See you in the Dark!

Sir William Welles

Thursday, May 17, 2018

Romancing the Goth Tip #9: The Window to the Soul

(originally posted on 3/28/11)

Greetings my dear Gothlings!

One of the most reliable, yet cost effective (ie. Free!), thing you can do is eye contact. Not just looking into her or his eyes, but really gaze into them. Lose yourself in those eyes! Moreover, spice up this gaze with several emotion laden squints, winks, sad puppy-dog eyes, worrisome eyebrows, and especially mysterious and sultry glances. Then, try to communicate with your lover by only using direct eye contact and facial expressions. If done correctly, after a few weeks of practice, it will seem to each other that you can both read one another’s minds by way of simple glances. This will elevate your bonded relationship to a whole new level, I promise. After all, they say (admittedly, I don’t who “they” are…) that the eyes are the windows to the soul…but it’s true!

See you in the Dark!

Sir William Welles